E just posted on her facebook status that she's "in a relationship" with another swimmer on our summer swim team. When I asked her why I had to find out about this on facebook, she said, "I was going to tell you, I just didn't have time." When I asked her what this means, she just said, "I don't know."
E is so lost. The last thing she needs is a boyfriend. I worry that our naive, insecure little girl is going to make a wrong decision, looking for love and attention. Her moral compass is pretty strict and for the most part I trust her instincts, but she's lied to us multiple times in the last few weeks. Now I'm questioning all the times she said she was doing something with the swim team. E has spent the last 18 months manipulating the adults in her life. I just hope she respects us enough to be straightforward with us about this boy.
I am just not ready for this. Insta-teenager is no fun.
Prayers for strength on your part and smarts on her part. Thinking about you all.
ReplyDeleteHugs.
Insta-teenager sounds scary as hell.
ReplyDeleteI would have had an impossible time telling my parents about anything relationship-wise at that age, and really sort of didn't tell them anything later until I met the man who is now my husband. And I had the world's nicest most stable parents. Some things are just...private.
My hope with my children is to lay down some clear rules and expectations, and then not pry and hope they come to me if they need to. But I'm glad I have a few more years to prepare myself. Sorry you have to deal with it so soon. Good luck.