tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post6167338907417883207..comments2023-10-06T11:56:11.987-04:00Comments on Family Rocks: The Life of Peg: PrioritiesPeghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02162890081910497200noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post-58055380665553700432013-05-18T11:47:59.537-04:002013-05-18T11:47:59.537-04:00Wow, thanks so much for that. Definitely needed to...Wow, thanks so much for that. Definitely needed today.Peghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162890081910497200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post-48981153944563617182013-05-18T00:54:48.784-04:002013-05-18T00:54:48.784-04:00I just copied the following into my quote book - i...I just copied the following into my quote book - it actually comforts me to remind myself that for as overwhelmed as I feel, I'm not alone.<br /><br />"In the face of all that life can throw at you there are times when blatant mental imbalance is the sanest, healthiest most healing response.<br /><br />We are all embedded in enormous systems, familial, social and planetary, which are also cycling, swinging wildly, falling in and out and passing through imbalance, equilibrium and back again. Living and breathing balance requires and contains imbalance within it.<br /><br />We will all lose our footing.<br /><br />No one is impervious. We will all drop the ball."<br /><br />-- Martha Crawford, What a Shrink ThinksBRnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post-45276006535561812362013-05-01T19:48:18.617-04:002013-05-01T19:48:18.617-04:00Ive been thinking of this exact thing a lot lately...Ive been thinking of this exact thing a lot lately. My six year old is very independent, and is able to understand when i say "not right now", "next time", or "maybe later". My two year old however, needs constant attention, and more constant affection. He doesn't ask though. He just takes (kisses, hugs, snuggles etc.) Its not very easy for him to understand that mom is busy. <br /><br />I worry that my oldest feels jipped, left out, or just plain neglected. I know he feels a bit jealous at times. Ive gotten better at delegating to my mom and husband, but it still weighs heavy. Ive been attempting to spend a little more private time with the oldest, which usually his baseball games, abd on the way home. <br /><br />I think if you do your best to be sure each kid knows you love them with every last part of you, theyl be just fine. And i think the less needy ones dont notice as. much as we think. Remember, your not the first working mother of five, and you wont be the last. (My dad had four girls and a boy. As the oldest and least needy, i may have felt a little over worked, but never under loved)<br /><br />You might try delegating some responsibility of the littles, to the girls? Baby steps of course. Idk, i feel like it might help them if they know you trust them, to help you. Just a thoughtAmanda Dearesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00422761075100911120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post-13809799022029403622013-04-25T19:56:59.719-04:002013-04-25T19:56:59.719-04:00I think Korinthia nailed it. Being a mom is not f...I think Korinthia nailed it. Being a mom is not for the faint of heart, and all the rest of it. It's tough, and I think I'm failing more often than I'm successful. I wince when I think back on things I did with/to Hannah. I cringe. And, I repeat them with Lil and Bean. UGH! <br /><br />I was thinking of you as Bean and I cruised around CW today. I took over 120 photos and am posting them in batches over the next few days. :o)Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317328366288947798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5879690231462568727.post-69734992094709103512013-04-25T12:28:51.731-04:002013-04-25T12:28:51.731-04:00I think every parent worries about this. Yours is...I think every parent worries about this. Yours is just an extreme version with complicated variables tossed in to distract you. I think you play it by ear, every day, and you won't always get it right, and you just chalk it up to being human and try again the next day. I confessed to someone yesterday that I was feeling bad that my daughter was struggling with a project at the last minute that I couldn't help her with while I was out of town. My friend looked at me like I was insane and said, "Wow, that mother guilt runs deep." She's right that I had nothing to feel guilty about, but when everything isn't all wonderful with family and home it feels like failure sometimes. You sound like your priorities are, if anything, not skewed enough toward helping yourself. <br /><br />Being a mom is not for the weak, is it?korinthiahttp://the-quiet-corner.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com